This week has shown me how much work will go into being a titleholder as well as signs that my reach out is helping others. There are tons of amazing events happening in the next couple of months and I want to go to all of them. That being said, I have had to choose which ones I will and won't go to this year. Much to my chagrin, Leather HEAT is not an event I am likely to make this year because the week following it, I am helping run Colorado Leather Fest (CLF) and I know that the week prior will be crunch time to ensure that CLF is amazing for all who attend. I will attend HEAT next year so please tell me all the amazing stories you will have from it.
I will be at We Love Bootblacks in Windsor tonight and Saturday where I will be teaching my first official class as a titleholder. It will be an overview of the basics of leather care for Colorado leathers. The basics never change really but due to the climate in different areas, different products work best. I am told that on the East Coast mink oil doesn't go rancid. Here in Colorado, it can and in Arizona and other dry states I have spoken with many who have had it do so. It will be fun to share that.
I also will be at the Leather Party hosted by the RACK Room on the 19th and the Leather Dungeon Party at Voodoo on the 20th. I will be blacking at both of these events as well as taking preorders for the wonderful pins I will have and be selling to help support my travels this year and next.
At the end of the month I will be attending the Bootblack Bootcamp where I will be teaching my Let me in the Dungeon Damn It! class about bootblacking is a scene and is hot and sexy and belongs in the dungeon with any other scene and can be incorporated into any scene. This is one of my favorite classes to teach and I hope to see many of you there. I will be driving to Pheonix for it so if you want to come and need a lift, let me know.
Part of my commitment to my community is that I will be out and open about living both as a bootblack and a slave. That I will be open about BDSM, Kink and Leather and that I will share and teach about it. For me, this includes reaching out to the local non-kink communities and also reaching out to those who might not have a community near them to help them learn about us. On facebook ,I am very out and share about the lifestyle and leather both on my personal and professional pages. I teach and share both within the community and outside of the kink/Leather scenes.
This week I had someone reach back to me. Someone who doesn’t have a very supportive community in their area and who wants to learn more and believes that they too will find fulfillment in their lives on their knees serving another. It was a very touching moment for me. When friends in my local community reach out for support and advice, I expect it because I reach out to them too when I need help. To have a complete stranger choose to trust me enough to reach out and bare their soul to me like that humbled me.
I am so honored that even one person was willing to reach out to me like that. I hope I was able to help them feel a bit more supported and aware of the community. I wish I could go and hold their hand as the attend their first munch etc. This was, for me, the start of my missions fruits. I want to be able to be there for those that reach out and help them find ways to find fulfillment. I am honored to be trusted enough to be reached out to and I make a promise to each of you. I am going to keep learning and growing and finding resources for us, so that when you reach out to me, I can offer you the best help possible. I hope I don’t make mistakes and please forgive me when I do.
Again this week the trust shown to me by my community and by strangers even has amazed me. Thank you all for being so supportive and helping me be strong.
On Wednesday this week I will share a different writing about blame and confrontation and how to deal with it in our wonderful world of Kink and power exchange relationships.
~xiaoyi - slaveheart and bootblack at large